You’ve heard it–people who excuse their flakiness by telling you how crazy their life is. They describe all the commitments they have, the people they’re trying to please, the deadlines they are up against, the lack of structure in their lives, and the incredible sacrifices they are making in order to have it all. You’ve said it before. I’ve said it too…but I don’t anymore because now I know the truth.
People who live crazy lives are insecure. When you feel small and scared inside you are constantly striving to prove to yourself that you are valuable. The frenzy helps prove your worth.
People who live crazy lives have poor boundaries. They allow others to invade and have a hard time saying “no” for fear someone will be angry with them. Or they may invade the boundaries of others by being controlling and taking on responsibilities that aren’t theirs.
People who live crazy lives are materialistic, perhaps not in the “yacht at the boat club” sort of way but they definitely prefer things over people. Crazy living makes you short tempered with your family and complete strangers. It makes you feel that resources are limited and other people are competition. Crazy living makes you selfish. You fail to see that everyone is the star of their own show, not just bit players in yours.
People who live crazy lives are unhappy. They can see happiness but it is always on the horizon, out there, coming soon. They are waiting for the big break, passionate relationship, team win, big toy, worthy endeavor, or fun distraction that will make all their happiness dreams come true.
People who live crazy lives are unhealthy. They don’t eat nutritious food. They don’t get enough rest. They rarely exercise unless it is competitive or goal specific. Their constant anxiety contributes to chronic pain and exacerbates disease.
People who live crazy lives are out of touch with their spirits. The spirit is something intrinsic that recognizes truth and feels vast and eternal as the universe itself. When you sense your spirit you feel calm and content. Crazy living provides constant preoccupation with trivial things and little opportunity for soul searching, connecting with nature or people.
Stop the crazy living! That crazy feeling is really an alarm going off in your psyche signaling you to make immediate adjustments to avert danger. Listen to the alarm. Make a change. Move towards a sane, relaxed, happy life.
Well now you know. Bet you’ll never again brag about your crazy life.
Illustration from We Magazine for Women
